Have you been Manipulated and Lied to by someone you trust? Do you allow yourself to believe the same lies told by the same person even after finding out the information wasn't accurate? Do you allow yourself to give that same person chance after chance? Did you ever consider that the person is intentionally passing on false information to destroy your credibility? Have you been taken for a fool by a sockpuppet who is trying to bolster his/her own business?
Psychological manipulation is a type of social influence that aims to change the perception or behavior of others through underhanded, deceptive, or even abusive tactics. By advancing only the interests of the manipulator, often at the other's expense, such methods could be considered exploitative, abusive, devious, and deceptive.
Social influence is not necessarily negative. For example, doctors can try to persuade patients to change unhealthy habits. Social influence is generally perceived to be harmless when it respects the right of the influenced to accept or reject it, and is not unduly coercive. Depending on the context and motivations, social influence may constitute underhanded manipulation.
Deceit
1.the act or practice of deceiving; concealment or distortion of the truth for the purpose of misleading; duplicity; fraud; cheating: Once she exposed their deceit, no one ever trusted them again.
2.an act or device intended to deceive; trick; stratagem.
3.the quality of being deceitful; duplicity; falseness: a man full of deceit.
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Deception, dissimulation. - Deceit, guile, hypocrisy, duplicity, fraud, trickery refer either to practices designed to mislead or to the qualities that produce those practices. Deceit is the quality that prompts intentional concealment or perversion of truth for the purpose of misleading: honest and without deceit.
The quality of guile leads to craftiness in the use of deceit: using guile and trickery to attain one's ends. Hypocrisy is the pretense of possessing qualities of sincerity, goodness, devotion, etc.: It was sheer hypocrisy for him to go to church. Duplicity is the form of deceitfulness that leads one to give two impressions, either or both of which may be false: the duplicity of a spy working for two governments.
Fraud refers usually to the practice of subtle deceit or duplicity by which one may derive benefit at another's expense: an advertiser convicted of fraud. Trickery is the quality that leads to the use of tricks and habitual deception: notorious for his trickery in business deals.
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1.the act or practice of deceiving; concealment or distortion of the truth for the purpose of misleading; duplicity; fraud; cheating: Once she exposed their deceit, no one ever trusted them again.
2.an act or device intended to deceive; trick; stratagem.
3.the quality of being deceitful; duplicity; falseness: a man full of deceit.
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Deception, dissimulation. - Deceit, guile, hypocrisy, duplicity, fraud, trickery refer either to practices designed to mislead or to the qualities that produce those practices. Deceit is the quality that prompts intentional concealment or perversion of truth for the purpose of misleading: honest and without deceit.
The quality of guile leads to craftiness in the use of deceit: using guile and trickery to attain one's ends. Hypocrisy is the pretense of possessing qualities of sincerity, goodness, devotion, etc.: It was sheer hypocrisy for him to go to church. Duplicity is the form of deceitfulness that leads one to give two impressions, either or both of which may be false: the duplicity of a spy working for two governments.
Fraud refers usually to the practice of subtle deceit or duplicity by which one may derive benefit at another's expense: an advertiser convicted of fraud. Trickery is the quality that leads to the use of tricks and habitual deception: notorious for his trickery in business deals.
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~ snip from article - The dictionary defines deception as "the art of deceiving". This means to be false, to fail to fulfill, to accept as true or valid what is false or invalid and to give a false impression. In essence, the definition of deception has many different aspects to it.
Some are paid quite well to deceive people. And the people eat it up.
We, as consumers, love to be promised great things by buying products that we may not necessarily need. Should we find that the product did not live up to the advertisers, we consider that buyers remorse.
While in advertising it is considered acceptable to deceive, we do not feel the same when others deceive us. In fact, we are often hurt by being led to believe something that is not true.
From what I can tell, the main difference in advertising deceit and day to day deceit is that it stings more when you have actually met the person. This makes it more personal and, therefore, more painful.
Whether you have just bought a lemon of a car from a dealership or found that you significant other has lied about an affair, these are people that you come in contact with face-to-face. Sometimes it is just a friend who says something deceitful to get something he/she wants.
Deceit is never good nor is it morally sound, it occurs everywhere in our world. The premise behind leading someone to believe something that isn't true is wrong.
This is because the person being deceitful always has his/her own advantage in mind.
Deceit is one of the main reasons so many marriages and relationships fail. Once deceit is found out, the trust in a relationship is a factor and rarely can ever be established again. If a husband has denied involvement in an insurance scam and the wife finds out that he has, there may be no recourse for this lie. If a wife vows to her husband that she is not overspending on their credit cards and the husband sees the bill stating she has, he has to decide if he can work past her deceit.
All forms of deceit, whether malicious or unintentional, are harmful to every party involved in them. Knowing something is false and then leading others down that path, toward that unattainable promise, is unethical and hurtful.
For the most part, we can forgive and forget those advertisers who make promises to us that are not fulfilled. We have a much harder time dealing with deceit when it originates from a person we know and especially if we care about them.
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The "Signs" of Liars - The 5 Secret Signs to Spot a Lie
There are many signs of liars in today's world. We encounter them everyday. This may be personally or via a media such as television/internet/radio. It is difficult, at times, to determine if you are being lied to.
Normally, if you think that you are being lied to, you probably are. Especially if everything that you are hearing is making you especially happy. When you are hearing something that seems too good to be true, it probably is. Always make sure you understand everything that a person is telling you and that it really does make sense.
It is usually easy to tell you are dealing with a liar when they have an answer for every question you pose. Human nature gives us the gift of pausing, thinking or saying "I don't know" as opposed to always having an answer. Having an answer for everything is not probable if at all possible, regardless of the subject or the brain the information is being extracted from.
Of course, in your personal life, identifying liars can be more difficult as it is harder to be objective. Generally, I have noticed these key factors when I have knowingly been lied to:
Eye Aversion
Looking away is key when lying. Generally it is done because the person is trying to visualize what they are telling you. Since it is a story, seeing it while telling you is a way to make it more real.
Swallowing
This is something I have noticed with many people. Whey they are lying, they pause to swallow. It's as if they are subconsciously stalling for time or want to appear thirsty to stall even longer.
Sweating
This is the most obvious. However, this doesn't necessarily occur at the beginning of a lie. However, if you drag it out with questions, the liar will usually begin to perspire.
Details
Most people, when lying, will actually focus on details more than they normally would when talking. It is as if they expect the person they are lying to, to get so wrapped up in all of the details that they either a) forget what the lie was about or b) become so convinced it is the truth because of the description of the scenery. Let's face it, most people generally tell a story to get from point a to b and not to describe the vibrant colors in a flower.
Lack of Details
When someone tells you that they "don't remember", they are usually lying. These are the people who didn't have time to come up with an excuse or another story so they lie to say that they can't remember. This is accompanied by eye aversion as well, since they DO remember, they just don't want to tell the truth.
Overall, use your best judgment should you feel that you are being lied to. With people you know, you at least have some sort of track record.
For those that you don't, you are basically taking a chance. Remember the tell tale signs and when in doubt, do what you can via police/internet/etc. to find the truth.
http://psychologyofhuman.blogspot.com/2008/10/truth-about-lying.html
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Lie
Word for the day ~ "Name-dropping" ...
Word for the day ~ "Confidential" ...
Word for the day "Misinformation" ...
Word for the day ~ "Sockpuppet" ... Some have 5 or more identities on the same forum ... How to spot a sockpuppet ...
Words for the Day ~ Envy and Jealousy ~ Understanding Envy ~ Aristotle "as the pain caused by the good fortune of others" ..
We, as consumers, love to be promised great things by buying products that we may not necessarily need. Should we find that the product did not live up to the advertisers, we consider that buyers remorse.
While in advertising it is considered acceptable to deceive, we do not feel the same when others deceive us. In fact, we are often hurt by being led to believe something that is not true.
From what I can tell, the main difference in advertising deceit and day to day deceit is that it stings more when you have actually met the person. This makes it more personal and, therefore, more painful.
Whether you have just bought a lemon of a car from a dealership or found that you significant other has lied about an affair, these are people that you come in contact with face-to-face. Sometimes it is just a friend who says something deceitful to get something he/she wants.
Deceit is never good nor is it morally sound, it occurs everywhere in our world. The premise behind leading someone to believe something that isn't true is wrong.
This is because the person being deceitful always has his/her own advantage in mind.
Deceit is one of the main reasons so many marriages and relationships fail. Once deceit is found out, the trust in a relationship is a factor and rarely can ever be established again. If a husband has denied involvement in an insurance scam and the wife finds out that he has, there may be no recourse for this lie. If a wife vows to her husband that she is not overspending on their credit cards and the husband sees the bill stating she has, he has to decide if he can work past her deceit.
All forms of deceit, whether malicious or unintentional, are harmful to every party involved in them. Knowing something is false and then leading others down that path, toward that unattainable promise, is unethical and hurtful.
For the most part, we can forgive and forget those advertisers who make promises to us that are not fulfilled. We have a much harder time dealing with deceit when it originates from a person we know and especially if we care about them.
______
The "Signs" of Liars - The 5 Secret Signs to Spot a Lie
There are many signs of liars in today's world. We encounter them everyday. This may be personally or via a media such as television/internet/radio. It is difficult, at times, to determine if you are being lied to.
Normally, if you think that you are being lied to, you probably are. Especially if everything that you are hearing is making you especially happy. When you are hearing something that seems too good to be true, it probably is. Always make sure you understand everything that a person is telling you and that it really does make sense.
It is usually easy to tell you are dealing with a liar when they have an answer for every question you pose. Human nature gives us the gift of pausing, thinking or saying "I don't know" as opposed to always having an answer. Having an answer for everything is not probable if at all possible, regardless of the subject or the brain the information is being extracted from.
Of course, in your personal life, identifying liars can be more difficult as it is harder to be objective. Generally, I have noticed these key factors when I have knowingly been lied to:
Eye Aversion
Looking away is key when lying. Generally it is done because the person is trying to visualize what they are telling you. Since it is a story, seeing it while telling you is a way to make it more real.
Swallowing
This is something I have noticed with many people. Whey they are lying, they pause to swallow. It's as if they are subconsciously stalling for time or want to appear thirsty to stall even longer.
Sweating
This is the most obvious. However, this doesn't necessarily occur at the beginning of a lie. However, if you drag it out with questions, the liar will usually begin to perspire.
Details
Most people, when lying, will actually focus on details more than they normally would when talking. It is as if they expect the person they are lying to, to get so wrapped up in all of the details that they either a) forget what the lie was about or b) become so convinced it is the truth because of the description of the scenery. Let's face it, most people generally tell a story to get from point a to b and not to describe the vibrant colors in a flower.
Lack of Details
When someone tells you that they "don't remember", they are usually lying. These are the people who didn't have time to come up with an excuse or another story so they lie to say that they can't remember. This is accompanied by eye aversion as well, since they DO remember, they just don't want to tell the truth.
Overall, use your best judgment should you feel that you are being lied to. With people you know, you at least have some sort of track record.
For those that you don't, you are basically taking a chance. Remember the tell tale signs and when in doubt, do what you can via police/internet/etc. to find the truth.
http://psychologyofhuman.blogspot.com/2008/10/truth-about-lying.html
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Lie
Word for the day ~ "Name-dropping" ...
Word for the day ~ "Confidential" ...
Word for the day "Misinformation" ...
Word for the day ~ "Sockpuppet" ... Some have 5 or more identities on the same forum ... How to spot a sockpuppet ...
Words for the Day ~ Envy and Jealousy ~ Understanding Envy ~ Aristotle "as the pain caused by the good fortune of others" ..
